Self interest

I am very disappointed yesterday after i handed in my resignation. I can't comprehend how some people can live with themselves.

I guess the meaning of respect has been miscontrue. People in high position always think that respect comes with position. But to me thats such an ancient thought. For me, no matter how high you are, you should think that respect comes with that. Respect comes with how you treat another person.

Belfong, i know that this is your favourite word.

Let me share with you. I have always been a person who abided rules even in primary and secondary school. Being a prefect in school for all those years - you're always looked at sometimes with respect , sometimes with hate. I guess that's with any position. You can't get the favours from everyone. I remember at one time, when I was about to be nominated as the Head of Prefects. I didn't want it. And there was another girl in school, who is pretty much a loud mouth and as a prefect she doesn't gain much favours. But anyways, she was nominated. I guess i have a group of prefects who still felt that I should be the head girl. So in a way, that girl felt it and one day she approached me and said this and that. I said, I have nothing to do with it. as you know I never wanted the position. I am contented being just a normal prefect. Anyways, she went around spreading things about me and some other people. Then she came to me and said that why did i say this and that i don't respect her. I told her this and I still remember very clearly what I said. I told her " You don't get respect just like that becoz you're a the head prefect, You EARN that respect" So actually what I was trying to tell her is that her behaviour does not reflect the behaviour of a head girl.

Funnily that same sentiment was playing in my head yesterday. I am still pretty upset about what happened yesterday. Yesterday I put in my resignation. As per stated in the offer letter, it only needed 24 hour notice. So I went to work and then gave my boss the letter in the morning. I explained to him that I have decided to move back to MNC environment. Then he didn't even bother to open the letter or take it. It was just left at the position at where it was placed by me. Then he said, since you have decided i dont' think I can change your mind therefore all the best.

Then 10 minutes later, the secretary came running to everyone who is officer and high rank and said there is to be a meeting at 9.10am. So I went to see HR and handed in my letter to the lady. She asked me how did your boss take it. I said , he didn't even bother to look at the letter nor open it. She was shocked.

But the shocking one is yet to come. AT the meeting after discussing other things, obviously he brought up the fact that I had resigned and with 24 hour notice. Then he said this "Mystic, this is the advice I have for you. You should always respect the person who has hired you and the org that has hired you. Eventhough its within your rights to resign with 24 hours but you should think that you should give us enough notice to find a replacement and to have a proper handover. If you thnk that since you're leaving anyway, you dont' care then you're heartless"
I was shocked with this. As when i handed him the letter he didn't bother to say anything. This was his revenge I guess. Then he added on saying he is a professiona,, work is work personal is personal. to me that's bullshit... As this just show that he took it personally. I said " Mr.T, I am not that sort of a person, I will hand over everything to SP before I leave and you know that" He just refused to acknowledge that and carry one talking. He added, I don't know what you're thinking or whats in your head but if you were to come in earlier and talk to me we could have worked something out.

I can tell you this, It was at the tip of my tongue to say this. HE DIDNTRESPECT EITHER. He thinks that respect some only in one form which is with THE position he HOLDS. Which is so wrong. I too am to be respected as an employee and as a human being. You could have very well told me when i saw you one to one but with vengence you toldthat infront of 20 other people. In his case he is just selfish. With his only interest to get his work done.

If in the event that the situation was the opposite and the policy states that only 24 hours notice is required to be given to each party, he would have done the same thing. With no compassion what so ever.

To me respect doesn't come wtih the position. You may get certain advantage with the position but respect doesn't come automatically. Respect comes when you treat another human being with dignity and courtesy. Thats what respect is.

In this work place I have seen an executive shouting at another clerk level person who reports to her. But why does she need to speak to the other person that way. Doesn' that person deserve the right to be spoken to properly. The clerk has feelings , emotions, she is HUMAN. I never believe in that.

I am sad that in such a short period of time, I have seen so much injustice in this place and it will not change. Coz we have people like MR.T that thinks RESPECT comes with position.

To me, You maybe the lowest ranked person on the whole universe. But if you have dignity and work with compassion and courtesy - you have my respect. I never shun a tea lady out becoz she works in the pantry. I talk to them, I joke with them. I know the parking attendant that works at my previous company. He tells me when there is a traffic jam or when its raining heavily to becareful. You see, if you treat people with diginity, you get respect automatically.

The world will not be a better place if people think that respect will get you places.
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